Articles & Resources
A place to stay with what you’re noticing.
Guided resources for reading, reflecting, and returning whenever you need them, alongside Quinn’s longer essays on Medium.
The Deep Work
Guided reflection worksheets.
More writing space. More structure. Tools designed to return to when you need them.
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The Abuse Cycle
Map your experience at your own pace and name the phases that kept repeating.
Reactive Abuse
A guided reflection on reactive defense, self-blame, and the story you were told about yourself.
The Invisible Cage
A deeper guide to coercive control and the gradual ways a life can become smaller.
The Nicest Person in the Room
A focused guide to covert abuse, when what was happening was hard for anyone else to see.
Essays & Articles
When a caption is not enough.
Follow Quinn on Medium for real-time writing from where she is now: the healing, the setbacks, the unexpected victories, and the parts that do not move in a straight line.
Follow on MediumA Love Letter to a Man Who Doesn’t Exist
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I Wasn’t Addicted to Him. I Was Addicted to the Relief.
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Photo by Renato Leal on UnsplashWhat I Miss, and Why That Doesn’t Mean I Was Wrong to Leave
Read on Medium →Leaving Wasn’t the End. It Was the Beginning of a Different Kind of Control.
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It Gave Me the Ick. Here’s Why That Matters.
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When Leaving Becomes a Crisis: What the Abused Partner Owes
Read on Medium →You Don’t Leave When You’re Ready. You Leave When You Can’t Stay.
Read on Medium →You Didn’t Push Him Away. You Reacted to Being Pushed.
Read on Medium →I Never Thought He Would Hurt Me Physically
Read on Medium →The Version of Me He Needs Me to Be
Read on Medium →I Make His Plate First
Read on Medium →He Said All the Right Things. My Body Still Didn’t Believe Him.
Read on Medium →The Law Finally Caught Up
Canada’s Supreme Court just put a name to what he was doing to you.
Read on Medium →He Needed You Broken
Living with someone who needs you to stay distressed.
Read on Medium →Why You Said Yes When You Meant No
Why innocent people confess and why abuse survivors understand it better than anyone.
Read on Medium →The Double Bind
Explaining made you guilty. Silence made you guilty. Welcome to the trap.
Read on Medium →The Night I Called for Help to Leave
I called the police so I could leave my own home.
Read on Medium →What You Were Really Searching For
I started googling his behavior to make sense of it and what you’re actually looking for.
Read on Medium →Why Leaving Isn’t Simple
Why it’s so hard to leave emotional abuse, even when you know you should.
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